Backhanded compliments!
Most of the time I receive nice comments under my
pictures like, “Yassss girl, kill
it,” or “yayy for big thighs,” and all types of nice words and phrases of
encouragement. Then there are the occasional few commenters who tell me that I’m
such a beautiful woman, so I don’t have to show so much, wear dresses that are
tight, or wear things that scream I’m seeking attention from the opposite sex.
After giving me such “helpful” suggestions they then say, “God bless,” “be
blessed,” or , “I’m just trying to help you.” Normally, I wouldn’t address
this, but I see this happen often in the plus-size community, and from women to
women in general. It is irritating the way women throw around their mean
judgments, and unsolicited expert
opinions.
Normally, these comments are coming from insecure women
with little to no fashion sense. Why do they feel the need to give back handed
compliments and then try to bless their messiness? Our community is blossoming,
fashion-wise, and is encouraging women to express themselves with new and
creative styles. For some it is their first time embracing any sense of fashion
at all. Knocking people for exploring their fashion depths is not helpful. There
are a lot of outfits that I don’t agree with, some outfits make me cringe
(lol!). But, I would never, and I mean NEVER, go under someone’s picture and
tell them they don’t look nice, their clothes are too revealing, or give any
other unhelpful suggestions, because I feel like I’m some expert. That is not my
place, and it’s not yours either! This tight revealing outfit is pretty much a
FUCK YOU post! I can wear whatever the hell I want! I can be as simple, sexy,
boring, classy, or as class-less as I want to be. My body, my choice, and my
fashion is my freedom!
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Maybe, we should all follow the advice of our elementary school teachers. If you have nothing nice to say, don't say it at all. This post was inspired by my friend Kelly (Check out her blog here). Love you girl, keep offending! Super special thanks to Kitty k Free for all of your help. Check out her page, shes an awesome writer!
Thank you again for reading my rant lol. Love you guys!
I'm commenting as anonymous because I don't use any of the choices below, but I want to tell you who I am. I am Katherine Baran, of Cleveland, OH. A friend of my DIL posted your pic. It is absolutely horrible that folks make those kind of comments. You are lovely! The outfit you are wearing looks fantastic on you!
ReplyDeleteI really think that sometimes the folks who make ugly comments are the plain-Jane, no personality kind of women. THEY don't dare wear a style, so you shouldn't either. I'm a plus sized older woman and I'm too old for the kind of clothes the younger women wear, but I LOVE seeing a well dressed, stylish curvy woman! Just because you have curves is no reason to wear turtle necks and skirts to your ankles! Keep doing what you do and inspire other women to try it!
I do have a problem with you! How can you tell me where you got everything, yet I can't get that skirt you have on?!!! Gurrrrl! I need that skirt, lol! You by the way look marvelous! Keep shining Boo-Boo!
DeleteGreat article I have to often ask myself when did we become so judgmental or critics of everything
ReplyDeleteI say the same thing if you don't have nothing to say just keep scrolling by
When I read your post, my reaction was "girl, please". Because seriously, anyone who says that to you is clueless. So yeah, girl please. You slay every time i see a picture. Loveeee this outfit.
ReplyDeleteYou look great! Outstanding "F*ck Em " girl attire. I love it!!
ReplyDeleteGurl, you are rockin that outfit! I'm 58 years old and I think you look fantastic. Remind me of myself at your age! I love the bodysuit. Does it come in plus sizes? I checked it out and I only see it up to a 14. Let me know, again, you look great!
ReplyDeleteThe haters are many. Hate doesn't allow them to see the mess in their closets. Eres regia!
ReplyDeleteI don't care what they think.. you slayed this outfit.. most plus size girls put themselves in a box and not dare to be them selves and break social stereotypes.. Of embracing ourbodies and showing our selves in a fashionable light. Most women cant even get that is even a body suit put together.. To me this is Pure Genius!! So F-em! Hence if they had soooo much fashion sense they wouldn't be following your fashion blog
ReplyDeleteI agree with what someone said above. Where can I find a skirt like that?? Love this outfit!
ReplyDeleteI came on here to say you look great in this dress only to read the details and see that, alas, it ain't a dress! I love outfits that fool me. lolol.
ReplyDeleteYou look hot and sexy! Love the outfit. Great post! Human beings will always be human beings - pay no mind sister. :-)
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you are damn gorgeous and KILLING THAT OUTFIT..F#^K the haters..who cares about them anyway?
ReplyDeleteI know exactly what you mean! I am glad that we are in a time where we can embrace ourselves and where what we want for ourselves! Keep it up and as always you looking amazing!
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The beading on the dress is beautifully and detailed. The material is smooth and of high quality. It has "weight" to it. I cannot believe the deal I got!
ReplyDeleteThere's always gonna be those ones! Instead of uplifting you they would rather chop you down or do it subliminally by adding the be blessed. It's a shame women have to be like that toward one another!
ReplyDeleteWeow u look stunning!!! Killing it <3
ReplyDeleteI've just found your blog, this is the first post I see, and pardon my language but I think you look fucking hot in that dress.
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